自顾不暇

bù yào dān yōu bié rén zěn me kàn nǐ dà duō shù shí hou tā men dōu zài wèi kǎo lǜ bié rén zěn me kàn tā men ér zì gù bù xiá

不要担忧别人怎么看你，大多数时候他们都在为考虑别人怎么看他们而自顾不暇。

Don't worry about what others are thinking of you. Most likely they're too busy wondering what others are thinking of them.

cūn mín men shuō dì zhèn hòu tā men néng kàn dào nà ge nǚ hái wéi zhe fèi xū rào quān zi dàn tā men yǐ jīng zì gù bù xiá máng zhe wā bèi mái de rén méi fǎ qù bāng zhù tā

村民们说，地震后他们能看到那个女孩围着废墟绕圈子，但他们已经自顾不暇，忙着挖被埋的人，没法去帮助她。

After the quake they could see her circling the rubble, they said, but were too occupied digging themselves out to help.